There we sat at dinner – a time that, in my mind, is supposed to be calm and non-stressful. (I’ve heard food digests better.) But, after a draining workday, little things can seem huge. The kids were planning yet another summer business endeavor which crawled all over my husband. He began lecturing the negatives of such an endeavor…point 1, point 2…I felt like we were in a business meeting. I must have rolled my eyes. I glanced at my daughter who wasn’t listening to her father. She was looking at me. Her response to point 1 and 2: rolling her eyes.
Children do what we do . . . Boy, that’s a scary thought for me. How do you treat your husband? Do you respect him with your words, actions, attitudes, eyes? I struggle sometimes when I feel so justified in my disrespect. Can you relate? I think the best thing we as moms can do to help our children to respect their dad is to treat him with respect ourselves. Here are some Father’s Day (and everyday) tips to help our children respect their fathers:
- A compliment a day goes a long way! Brag on your husband in front of your children (and in front of him).
- Show me the love! Let your children know how much you love their daddy. Show affection in front of your children. They may say, “Yuck!” but it provides much needed security for their lives.
- Instead of being put-out -Pray! Include your children in praying for dad’s job, leadership, etc.
- Give him grace . . . Show him grace even when he doesn’t deserve it . . . remember, neither do we. Nehemiah 9:17b says “But you are a forgiving God, gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love.”
- Phone Manners. Next time you are in the middle of something and your husband calls you on the phone, be aware of your tone of voice, are you respectful? . . . little ears may be listening and learning.
- “Daddy’s Home!” Be as excited to see your husband when he comes home from work as your children are! Make yourself stop what you are doing to greet him.
- Choose your battles -When you think your husband is being unfair (and it’s a battle you need to fight) talk to your husband in private; listen first and speak last. Psalm 141:3 “Set a guard over my mouth O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.”
Try these no-cost (big rewards) Father’s Day gift ideas and see if it proves to be the gift that truly keeps on giving!
Laurie Lovejoy Hilliard and Sharon Lovejoy Autry are wives, moms, sisters and great friends. They are the founders of Mom and Loving It Ministries whose mission is to provide hope for families by encouraging and equipping moms.
After these sisters and their families toured 40 states speaking and singing to thousands of moms, they settled in the North Texas area near their hometown of Whitesboro. They’ve been featured on numerous TV and radio shows and have written Mom and Loving It: Finding Contentment in REAL Life, and Hold You, Mommy: Moments with God for Moms on the Go. Their musical CD, Hold You, Mommy has encouraged thousands. Laurie and her husband Charles, have four children, Sharon and her husband Pat, have three.
This twosome inspires audiences at their Mom and Loving It Conferences to move from simply enduring motherhood to enjoying it. Through their genuine hearts and relatable stories, moms are put at ease and challenged to be a “Mom and Loving It!”
To find out more about using their books as studies in your ladies group, having them for a conference or to sign up for a free monthly Mom-e-Moment visit them at http://www.momandlovingit.org/