Handling Grief

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I’ve learned several things through the miscarriges about grief and how I process it. I’ll share a few today in case they might help you as you try to understand or be supportive of someone you know going through grief. A couple things hit me this week that made me think this might be a good time to share. 1) …

My Source of Strength in Pain

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Strength. I’ve always thought of myself as a strong person. Ask anyone who knows me and they’d likely agree. I tend to take life and adapt it to the way I want things to go. Most of the time. But every once in awhile life throws me a curveball. The latest came in July. The day before I left for …

Lingering Effects…

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Friday night I learned that two friends miscarried last week. My heart broke for them and the loss of their babies. I have to tell you — I don’t understand why God allows such things to befall us in life. I wrestle with understanding His ways, His purpose, His plans. Yet I know that He is in control of our …

Will it ever fade?

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Today is the second anniversary of my miscarriage. Last week I drove by the cemetery where the memorial is and started crying. Some days I wonder when it will stop hurting. When the ache will fade. And then another corner of me doesn’t want to forget. Will that negate the life that God created? Then I look at the women …

Life is sometimes a valley

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Most of you know that I had a miscarriage almost two years ago. Last week I was blind-sided again by grief. It is amazing how life can be flowing — busy but so good — and then, wham! I’m back in that place. I suppose all grief is like that. I’m just pretty inexperienced at it. Last week two events …

Amen and Hallelujah

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This morning I slipped on a beautiful bracelet a friend gave me at least year’s ACFW conference. I was sitting here at the computer, holding little Rebecca as I “try” to work and saw the words on the bracelet again. Hallelujah and Amen. What bookends to the last 18 months. Amen to God’s goodness even when I don’t understand things …

Thoughts on Our New Arrival

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Thanks to everyone who has left comments on Rebecca’s arrival. She has been an absolute delight. The only thing that will make her better is when she starts sleeping a little more consistently at night, but hey, she’s only one week old 🙂 Here are a few thoughts and cute stories. Jonathan was a bit upset to learn we’d had …

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep…

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I stumbled across this organization last week via this Minneapolis photographer’s website. Warning: the remembrance photos will bring a tear to your eye, even if you aren’t a grieving, pregnant woman. Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep is a non-profit organization of photographers that take pictures of parents and their angel babies. I wish I had something tangible to …

Anniversaries…

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This week is filled with anniversaries. Eric and I will celebrate 12 years of marriage. Twelve years ago we made it to our honeymoon spot in time to watch the second half of the Super Bowl. Many times since then, Eric has stated how grateful he is that I love football. In fact, the NFC title game is on in …